Thursday, November 16, 2006

Fred's Dead.............

Last night, one of my best friends told me he is thinking about moving in and marrying a woman he met two and a half months ago. I yelled at him. I love him. I care. He does this EVERY time with a new woman. (Dude, WAIT until the pheromones wear off!!) This one sounds great and like the best match he has ever had and I am happy for him. I think I really hurt his feelings and he asked, "can't you just be happy for me?" I am!!!!!! I just want to make sure he is making a great decision but moreover, I want him to enjoy himself. More than anyone, I can appreciate wanting to skip to the end of the book. I really want to know how my story ends too. By reminding him that life is a journey not a destination, I reinforce that in myself as well. You need to appreciate the process. If you artificially skip to all of the "good parts" you are missing some very rich and memorable moments. (I don't know why this makes me think of my copy of Judy Blume's Forever I had as a pre pube. You would lay the book down and it would flop open to ALL the dirty parts.) As much as I hate dating and sorting through all these losers it will make me appreciate the right one when he does come. I want to hunger for the first kiss, first sex, first meeting of the friends, first Christmas.....wonder when the ring is coming. It is beautiful and complex, you shouldn't try to rush these things. You need to savor them. There is only one *First* anything (stretch it out and get your moneys worth!) If you cannot be satisfied and content in the quiet moments with the one you love there isn't much hope for longevity. Quit being such and adrenaline junkie, slow down and drink it all in. Einstein said, "Put your hand on a hot stove for a minute it seems like an hour. Sit next to a pretty girl for an hour and it seems like a minute. That is relativity." This is the good part Doc! Don't want to ruin the ending for you but you die. Don't be in such a rush to skip ahead.

4 comments:

Minerva said...

I totally agree, you did the right thing by reminding him to slow down & I hope you find that special person to share your "firsts" with.

LA Woman said...

welcome Minerva! thank you for your post. My *PUSSY* friends lurk around my house and do not say anything. You are always welcome here, and bring me your problems. I would love to talk about them. Muah! Kat

Milfie said...

Kat! You are always articulate and thrilling to watch, listen to and be with...but this insightfull, thought provoking side of you is very sexy...
You are definitely gathering strength.

Duke said...

Beautifully put
I've never quite heard it explained that way, and I like it.

Only thing to add is that you don't take Cliff Notes home to mom.